Connect Overview

“There’s this part of grief where you go out in to the world and you’re looking normal, but you just feel so… isolated. In the past, people used to wear black and that was so that everybody would know that they were in mourning. And there’s that feeling that you’re in mourning but no-one knows that you’re in mourning, no-one knows that you have your grief… It’s like you want to say, “This has happened to me! I’m really wounded!” but you know you just look normal; it’s like your grief is invisible”.

— Consulting Writer Vanessa Gorman in the documentary ‘Losing Layla’.

For many people, grief is uncharted territory. Grief can be lonely and isolating, especially when we feel that people in our immediate environment can’t connect with us or understand how we feel. You can use this community to reach out to people who have some idea what you are going through.

Create or join a group that is significant to you and connect with others. For example, people who have lost their partners, parents who have lost children, carers of kids with Acquired Brain Injuries, and so on. You will probably find that there is already a group which focuses on your type of experience, but if not, you could start your own group, providing a point of contact for people like yourself.

Community groups (along the lines of Victoria’s Road Trauma Support Team) and local road safety groups can also form coalitions to promote themselves and their activities to the wider community.

Read and connect with other people’s stories. On this site, members’ public blog entries will be placed according to the time that has passed since the collision i.e. 1-6 months, 6-12 months, 1-2 years etc. Connect with people who are at a similar stage to you.

If you are blogging about a collision that occurred many years ago, you can upload writing, poems or journal entries that you wrote at the time. These can be backdated so they sit in the appropriate place on the timeline.

Connect with people affected by other collisions in your area. Campaign for road improvements if there are many tribute pins in the one area.

People affected by road trauma sometimes feel voiceless when they have so much to say. Join forums to talk about issues that are important to you and/or connect with like-minded people.

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